Happiness - A Bliss? A Torture?

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We all have questions that might be left unanswered at some point of life. Questions that make us think. Questions that make us wonder.

Sometimes we are content with being just okay in life because we do not really know what real happiness means. Because we do not have anything to compare with what we have. We feel good. Right. We even admit we are happy. We do. And we are. Or we think so. But only till the moment when we happen to be really happy. As in overwhelmingly happy. As in fairy tale type happy. Except for the happily ever after part. Because at some point we realize this moment of true happiness won’t last forever, will it? You wish you could save a moment… because after some time it’ll be gone forever. You’ll never have that feeling again and you’ll always want to get it back whenever things go bad.

Do you want to experience extreme happiness when you know it can be gone? It will be gone. At some point. Don’t you think it’s better to be extremely happy for a short while, even if you lose it, than to be just okay for your whole life? And is this happiness a bliss or a torture?

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  1. PeytonMay 31, 2010

    Fairy tales are just that. I prefer to live solidly in the real world with both feet on the ground. And in the real world, “bliss” does not exist. As for happiness, it is 100% up to the individual. Sure, the daily piss-off’s and disappointments may get you down, but in the end, you make the choice as to whether you’re going to allow these things to destroy your life or move on.

    I watched a movie from 2001 last night called “Prozac Nation” that was demonstrative of the above referenced point. All the protagonist did was whine/cry/complain and otherwise complicate her life with self-induced dramas. She allowed every little bump in the road to completely derail her emotional well-being. And instead of picking herself back up, learning from the experience and moving on, she chose to wallow in her own self-pity. The more she wallowed and tried to drown it with substances & chemicals, the more the event was amplified into a life destroying malady.

    The story was based on a true life story written by Harvard graduate & Yale law school grad, Elizabeth Wurtzel. She blamed her dramas on “depression,” but it was a clear case of an over-meddling, over-involved parent who was the primary reason why her daughter was unable to deal with life

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  2. JannJannMay 31, 2010

    Being a burned-alive-and-reborn-cold victim of love’s emotional games/tricks, I’ve had my share of “brief momentary happiness” - and although I admit it WAS good at that time, I’ve had a bad after-effect - like a T-shirt print I saw: “Love is like a roller-coaster; once it’s over, you throw up.” - a long-lasting negative impression that made me the untrusting individualist I am today.

    Yes, indeed it WOULD be nice to have a blissfully exhilarating love life, rather than a stable safe and rather boring one. But such bliss is almost - as you said it - fairy-tale like. Too many of us do not believe such a thing exists anymore. As they say in the movie The Matrix, human beings’ reality is defined by a state of constant disappointment, hardship, suffering, and the fairy-tale like Utopia we build always falls apart, because the human mind cannot accept that this could ever be real.

    So to be realistic, if you ask me now, I’d rather choose the boring, but stable one. That’s safe for myself. Something that won’t hurt me too badly.

    Of course, being a woman, I do not deny that the emotional part would still like to have some form of bliss and happiness in my life, if that choice was available, one that would not end up in hurt. But it’s not some bare necessity I couldn’t live without now.

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  3. MermaidMay 31, 2010

    A beautiful moment gone will never ever return back inspite of knowing this we still yearn for such moment..every hour..every second..because these moments are montage of our extreme happiness..happiness which stays no longer because it is having a very close friendship with sadness they both share equal roles on stage of our life.When we know that life is not bed of roses,we should learn to bear the pain of thorns in order to have fragrance of rose.Extreme happiness can only be there where there is no fears of loosing.When we know we are going to loose something some day we fail to be with that something for even those some days.Happiness is when you have a free soul..free from barriers..free from fears…even if it last for a second and this second of extreme happiness is a bliss.It’s better to live happily every single moment till happiness is there in your haven then to be tortured by the thought that it may not last longer.

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